Neuroqueer Mentorship & Support
You don’t need to train yourself to appear or act less neurodivergent. You need support that understands, accommodates, supports, validates, accepts, and celebrates you.
Living as a neurodivergent person—or parenting a neurodivergent child—can come with a lot of uncertainty.
You may be navigating a late diagnosis, wondering what to do with everything you now understand about yourself. You may be parenting a child whose needs don’t fit neatly into conventional systems. You may be exhausted from advocating, explaining, translating, accommodating, and trying to make sense of a world that often wasn’t designed with neurodivergent people in mind.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
I offer neurodiversity-affirming, trauma-informed mentorship for neuroqueer people and families, grounded in lived experience, professional knowledge, and years of learning, listening, advocating, parenting, writing, and navigating neuroqueer life from the inside.
This is a space where you don’t have to mask. Where your experiences are believed. Where difference isn’t treated as something to fix. And where we can focus on what actually helps you and your family build a life that works for you.
Mentorship rooted in lived experience
I come to this work from multiple perspectives.
I am a late-diagnosed AuDHD/PDAer myself. I know what it can feel like to look back over your life through a new lens—to reconsider old narratives, recognize patterns, grieve what might have been different, and discover parts of yourself that were always there.
I am also the mother of an AuDHD/PDer, so I understand the particular complexity of loving, supporting, and advocating for a neurodivergent child while simultaneously navigating schools, professionals, family expectations, and your own hopes and fears.
And I bring professional experience and knowledge to that lived experience.
I am also an author of two books about neurodivergence—Coming of Age is already published and Autistic Arcana is forthcoming in 2027.
My approach brings these pieces together:lived experience + professional perspective + deep curiosity + practical support.
Not as someone who has all the answers, but as someone who understands how complicated the questions can be.
Who I support
Neuroqueer adults
Mentorship may be helpful if you are:
Newly diagnosed or self-identified as neurodivergent
Exploring what neurodivergence means for your identity
A late-diagnosed adult making sense of your past and present
Exhausted by masking, burnout, or constantly adapting yourself for others
Trying to understand your needs, boundaries, sensory world, or communication style
Navigating relationships, work, parenting, or major life transitions
Looking for ways to live more authentically and sustainably
Simply wanting someone who gets it
Parents/families/Children
I also work with families who are:
Learning how to support a neurodivergent child
Newly navigating an autism, ADHD, or other neurodivergence identification or diagnosis
Struggling to understand behaviors, needs, communication, or regulation
Advocating within schools or other systems
Trying to move away from deficit-based approaches
Balancing the needs of a neurodivergent child with the needs of the whole family
Feeling overwhelmed, isolated, or unsure what to do next
Looking for a more affirming way to understand their child—and themselves
What mentorship can look like
There is no single neuroqueer experience, and there is no one-size-fits-all mentorship plan.
Our work might include:
Making sense of your neurodivergence
Understanding your experiences through an affirming, strength-based lens and exploring what your diagnosis or self-identification means for you.
Unmasking & self-understanding
Exploring patterns of masking, people-pleasing, perfectionism, burnout, and adaptation, while identifying what feels more authentic and sustainable.
Parenting through a neurodivergent lens
Making sense of your child's needs, strengths, communication, regulation, sensory experiences, and ways of being without turning difference into deficit.
Advocacy & systems navigation
Thinking through how to communicate needs, ask better questions, prepare for meetings, and advocate for yourself or your child.
Family relationships
Finding language for conversations that can be difficult—including differences in parenting perspectives, expectations, boundaries, and understanding.
Burnout & sustainability
Looking at what is draining you, what your nervous system may be asking for, and what meaningful support and accommodation could look like.
Identity & life transitions
Making space for the emotional complexity that can accompany diagnosis, self-discovery, parenting, changing expectations, or reimagining your future.
Sometimes mentorship is about finding the next step. Sometimes it is about finally having a place where you can say, “I don't know what I'm doing,” without being judged or criticized.
And sometimes it is about realizing that you were are not, nor have you or your child(ren) ever been broken or a problem to be fixed.
My approach
I believe people deserve support that begins with acceptance and validation, rather than correction.
I don't approach neuroqueerness as something that needs to be altered, cured, or hidden.
Instead, I’m interested in questions like:
What does this person need?
What is the environment asking of them?
What has been misunderstood?
What would make life more sustainable?
What strengths, interests, values, and ways of communicating are already here?
And perhaps most importantly:
What if we stopped measuring a good life by how closely someone can approximate a socially constructed and ableist one?
My goal is not to give you a checklist for becoming a “better” neurodivergent person or parent to a neuroqueer child.
It is to help you develop a deeper understanding of yourself or your child—and from there, identify possibilities for support, connection, advocacy, and a life that feels more spacious, beneficial, and enjoyable.
This is not about fixing you.
You are not a problem to solve.
Your child is not a problem to solve.
Neurodivergence is not a failure of parenting, character, discipline, or effort.
But that doesn't mean things are always easy.
Affirmation doesn't mean pretending that support needs don't exist, that families don't struggle, or that systems aren't difficult to navigate.
It means we can acknowledge the challenges without turning the person experiencing them into the challenge.
That distinction matters.
A different kind of support
Maybe you've already read the books.
Maybe you've spent hours researching.
Maybe you've talked to professionals who know a lot about neurodivergence—but didn't quite understand your experience.
Maybe you've become the person everyone expects to advocate, research, organize, explain, and hold everything together.
Or maybe you're simply tired of being told what you or your child should be doing differently.
Mentorship offers something different:
A collaborative space to think.
A space to ask questions.
A space to untangle the complicated stuff.
A space to explore possibilities without judgment.
A space where neurodivergence is understood as part of human variation—not something that needs to be overcome.
Come as you are.
You don't need to arrive with the right terminology.
You don't need to have everything figured out.
You don't need to know whether you're “really” neurodivergent.
You don't need to know exactly what you need from mentorship.
We can start there.
You bring the questions. We’ll explore them together.
Work with me
If you're looking for a person first, affirming, lived-experience, and trauma-informed space to better understand yourself, your child, or your family, I’d love to connect.
Whether you're at the beginning of your journey or have been navigating it for years, mentorship can offer a place to pause, make sense of what you're experiencing, and consider what comes next.
You don't have to navigate this alone. I look forward to hearing from you.